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Originally Posted by Chacmool
NB Anyone who suggests a threesome as the ideal solution will get some serious neg rep!  |
I got nothin' then.
The concept of fidelity works differently for males in females (in general).
Males tend to be more hurt by sexual infidelity, since we want the female to be the vehicle of our offspring/carry on our genes.
Females tend to be more hurt by emotional infidelity, since they want the males to care for them and their offspring.
If the male is spending time and connecting emotionally with another female, then he's likely diverting resources (whether they be time, money, affection, or otherwise) which otherwise would have been "spent" with the current relationship partner.
It sounds like you fall into this concern over emotional infidelity group. You are probably asking, "why can't he connect with me this way?" or "what does she give him that I'm not?" ... that sort of thing. These are perfectly valid questions, and also indicative of potential problems... In general.
It's not easy, and I only have little information to go on, but overall I'd suggest that you trust your gut. Don't talk yourself out of something you feel strongly about. If they were to spend a few hours having drinks together, would the chance of their being intimate worry you?
This simple fact is that if it bothers his current girlfriend and he's not willing to walk away for the benefit of the current relationship, then his priorities seem misaligned with yours.
Plenty of fellas here on Hypo wouldn't mind filling the vacancy though, so no problems there. How are you in the kitchen?
