I think it depends on the situation. Some people are very private, and it takes forever to discover who they 'really' are. Others are more open, and they are very up-front with what they stand for. When you encounter a person in the first group, and they do take off their mask, you've been given a gift, in my opinion. You ahve to treat that with respect. They obviously don't trust everyone enough to share their inner thoughts and feelings. If they choose NOT to share that in a group setting, even though they have shared it with you in a more personal setting, let them play their little game, and then discuss it in private. Ask them about it. People have many reasons for doing this. And I think most of us, if very honest, will admit to having more than one personality, depending on the situation and group that we are in. I know that's true for me, and virtually every person that I know. I don't think it makes a person two-faced, just multi-faceted...
