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[kaelcarp]

Originally Posted by Gulielmus

This question started because a needed a fast answer, some people dont work well with fast answers i understand and respect that but their should be a formula for it. In the end he give me a automatic answer, which then made the situation far more complicated because i left town for a coupple of days and all hell broke lose. I'm very respectfull to the trust that is put in me, but when you need something quickly and dont have time to work your way around all the barriors, is their some why to be serious, not hurt their feelings, communicate you question, and get an answer?

You just have to be tactful. There's no real formula for it. You have to be aware of the potential sensitivities of the other person. With some people, you can bluntly say, "Tell me for real. I know you enough and I want you to be honest and from the heart." With other people, you have to first get them into the state in which they were open with you to begin with.