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Originally Posted by moon
Pamela do you honestly believe that defending my self made me a bully?
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Originally Posted by mm
When I was in school doing my best to kick the bullies ass worked well for me.
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hmmm sounds more like alpha male and ego dude, did i misunderstand?
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I didn't always win but the bully seldom wanted to risk it more than a few times.
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so a couple good brawls is an end to a means?
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I also defended other kids from bullies, mostly my nerdy buddies but I grew up hard.
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saviour syndrome or just looking cool?
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Knuckling under to a bully was just out of the question
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. Yup, pride from the Apha male..
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My youngest son managed to bloody a bullies nose once in the neighborhood and learned that bullies fear nothing worse than a victim who stands up to them.
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i am curious did you praise his deed or show him a better way with nonviolence in response to his action?
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As an adult most confrontations do indeed take on a more verbal aspect. Verbal is just that, say what you want let me say what i want, i am pretty good at verbal defense but I have never taken the idea of violence off the table if it is directed at me. If you are in the middle of a verbal tirade and you poke me or push me you will get poked or pushed back.
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might be a good idea to let go of the emotion and speak clearly and concisely- you can convey your thoughts without it getting out of control
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It's just not in me to allow my self to be physically abused. If that make me a bad human then i am a bad human.
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silly! no one thinks you are a bad human nor would i want you to be abused. I do however know that you are capable of calm intelligent conversations, your posts in this forum have reflected that
