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[Moontanman]

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Originally Posted by pamela

hmmm sounds more like alpha male and ego dude, did i misunderstand?

Alpha male.....guilty

so a couple good brawls is an end to a means?

yup, when nothing else works there is no doubt

saviour syndrome or just looking cool?

Neither, I take of the people I love, always. These guys and one girl were my friends, we hung together because of our mutual interest in science, math, and music. They could only cry when bullied, I was raised differently. Backing down was just not part of me, of course i wasn't above running if there were too many ( I did have a brain ) but eventually the odds would get better and I would do my best to take them down.

. Yup, pride from the Apha male..

No doubt, but an alpha male who knows who his friends are. God had better help anyone who would mess with my kids now, but i am still loyal to those who are my friends too.

i am curious did you praise his deed or show him a better way with nonviolence in response to his action?

The talk came before the action, he was afraid to walk to his friends house three blocks away, I told him that he had to decide if he would sneak around in fear or take control of his life. I told him a simple punch to the nose would keep the bully from bothering him, it worked, the bully went on to more passive victims and my son could walk the neighbor hood with out fear. He never took to bullying anyone himself even though a 6' kid like him could have. He still seems to attract those who need someone to hide behind. He freely takes care of those who need a safe friend to depend on. he is a fine man and I'm very proud of him.

might be a good idea to let go of the emotion and speak clearly and concisely- you can convey your thoughts without it getting out of control

I am never out of control, i always keep the conversation as far above the gutter as possible but when forced to do so I will drop down and fight.

silly! no one thinks you are a bad human nor would i want you to be abused. I do however know that you are capable of calm intelligent conversations, your posts in this forum have reflected that