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[arkain101]

One thing that enters my mind in response to the title alone is the following;

Bullying basically comes down to ego related things. In the person doing the bullying there is a sense of pride, but of course it is a false sense of pride. But I am not going to attempt to try and explain the causes at this point.

What I notice in life is that any social confrontations and conflicts that occur, can be broken down to a few very basic rules. Confidence and Fear. Which really means, False confidence, and the fear connected with that.

I've consistently witnessed throughout my life that any group of people both subjected to events where their false confidence is realized and fear and caution takes their place, they become dependent on eachother. All the bully games subside, and the goal ahead of them becomes the top priority. This unavoidable teamwork effort forms understanding and bonds. It teaches people that in where they thought they saw weakness there was strength, and where they thought they saw strength the learned its weakness.

For example.

Racial issues settled between individuals in boot camp and warfare.

A bully subjected to a new and unfamiliar environment like a summer job surrounded by accomplished able people. His power is removed, his weakness exposes and he seeks for support in anyone.

I think solving bullying in schools would be directly related to these basics. If we could change the environment where false confidence was unable to succeed students would be able to learn new methods to gain sense of confidence and control.

Some of the specific issues could relate to school hours being too long. It becomes negatively central to their lives. In the sense they have to find something to do with their time, recess, lunch hours. The focus of what school is actually for fails severely! A lot of kids don't even know what they are doing there, so they invent their own main focus. Some kids turn school into their own little ego empire, where they can be powerful and in control.

Not enough real world challenges put in place where each persons true strengths can be exposed and utilized, and in that process itself they learn naturally what false strength and confidence really is.