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Originally Posted by enorbet2
Sorry for this little top post but I have yet to learn how to handle lists with the aplomb that you do Michaelangelica so please bear with me. In the interest of time I will fumble around as best I can, even if it is crude.
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Your doing really well. It took me a year to find some things here and I still have not explored all of hypography's 'nooks and crannies'!
I don't think I really disagree with you much. Just that we need to test your assumptions, perhaps. Thanks for the clarification of my simplification.
On cats, i raised them mainly for my kids. I
believe kids need to know how to treat animals. i always had animals as a kid (dogs, cats, rabbits, birds anything legal). My wife was not allowed pets.
The kids basically helped deliver most kittens (so it was a good biology lesson too!) and had them dressed in "baby clothes" before they could open their eyes! I think this very early handling helped give the kittens the wonderful temperaments they all had.
One mother cat decided enough was enough, and had her kittens in a cave in a big pile of rocks on our property (a small farm). These kittens were really wild. It took us some time to catch and tame them; and they never did have the trusting gentle nature that the handled "gentled"? cats/kittens did.
i don't know what this proves re humans or bullies, but is interesting nevertheless.
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Originally Posted by enorbet
One minor point -
I think it is mistaken to equate bullies with alpha males.
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Yes I agree. Women and men all jostle for social position and group status but that does not
always involve bulling.
In
Transactional Analysis they say that some people who feel insecure or inadequate ("I'M not OK") bully because this gives them rewards or 'strokes' their ego. It proves "I'm OK, Your Not OK. "I am at least better than this nerd!" ( See Dorothy Jongeward's Book "
I'm OK Your OK"). Perhaps this is the reason the school programme i mentioned,--where kids were taught that bullies were inadequate and to be puttied-- worked so well.
