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[Boerseun]

There's a big difference in the Western practice, and the concept of "Lobola", in that the value of the "Lobola" is determined by the father of the bride, and if a suitor doesn't cough up, to the dime, the father simply refuses the marriage.

Big negotiations ensue, where the wedding ends up being organized more like a business deal than anything remotely to do with love.

But be that as it may, it's a broken culture. It needs fixing, and, like you say, the only alternative is death through a massive die-off if we keep going at this pace.