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Originally Posted by Doctordick
Hi Buffy,
Sorry for the length of my posts. It is no more than an attempt to be clear. I can see so many ways my comments can be misinterpreted I try to cover all the bases. In the end, the readers usually misinterpret me anyway. I guess I am just not a decent writer. But I try! 
You shouldn't sell yourself short. When I was young, my mother told me that one learns more by listening than by talking and I took her quite seriously. I listened for a long time. Now I am old and not in a position to learn much more. Maybe it is my turn to talk. I know a few things that I think are worth talking about. But I just can't find anyone who wants to listen. 
In my life, I have never met anyone who's mind I would condescend to rank superior to my own. I was always told that intelligence was a measure of one's ability to solve problems: i.e., if two people know exactly the same things, the more intelligent one can do more with it. Think about that. Considering what the top people know, why is it that most of the breakthroughs are accomplished by youngsters? Now is that controversial enough for you Buffy?  If you have a good answer for that one I would like to hear it. I have one; a very specific answer. 
Yeah, I have noticed that. It's probably due to the ignorance of the people one has to deal with (notice I said "ignorance", not "intelligence"; in my opinion, the average man is far more intelligent than he is given credit for, his problem is that he doesn't know very much). If one listened to everyone, they wouldn't have any time left. I know I don't listen very much anymore myself.  If you don't have a decent attention span, you might as well ignore me because what I have to say requires understanding a number of rather diverse facts ordinarily never brought to bear on one another. 
Knowledge is Power
and the most common abuse of that power is to use it to hide stupidity |
I feel familiar with some of these thoughts. You have a problem. You are never going to find the people you are looking for.
The way you talk and think is rare. Exceedingly rare. I been around the internet for 8 or 10 years and I can't really remember anyone who can talk like that. In my life I have maybe met 10 people who can talk like that. You have to get used to being alone, and the idea that you are different. Once you accept that, the next part is easier.
You have to accept that if you want to get thru to people, you will have to change. You will have to "dumb down" your style of speech and your ideas. That goes against everything science and your ego will tell you. It is not pleasant. To force yourself to be someone you are not. I think you have no choice.
For instance, the comment about your length of writing is necessary to be clear. I understand that completely. I write so much people literally tell me to stop. What you and I find to be the clarity of completely describing an experiment as science recommends, regular people find to be mind numbing detail. Excruciating boredom. They are not scientists, there is no reason for them to be rigourous as must be done with experiments or scientific discussion or thought. Regular people will find you pedantic and scroll thru the post after 1 paragraph.
The bit about your turn to talk and others to listen. That tells me you are indeed older. I wonder if that feeling is like salmon swimming upstream? All older people feel like imparting their wisdom to someone else? I wonder if it is fathering instinct. Passing on knowledge that can save your tribe from future trouble. The problem is, other people do not necessarily feel it is their time to listen.
Lastly, the arrogance. I really don't know what to say about that. People really hate arrogance. If you said you would give them $1000, but you did it in an arrogant way, some people will turn you down. Telling people you are smart and they are ignorant is guaranteed to drive away anyone in the vicinity. It does not matter if it is true. No one wants to hear another person say that. You have to be satisfied that you know you are smarter than the average bear.
If I could give you some advice, first I would say you need exercise. Do you exercise? You will find that if you begin to exercise regularly, in a relaxing and fun exercise, not weightlifiting or something stressful, that your thinking, your speech and your writing style will change. The condition of your body has a direct influence on the thoughts you think and how you talk. Right now you sound very rigid and hard. If you were more relaxed, your thinking would relax. I think just that process of relaxation of your brain would allow the answers to some of your questions to bubble up to the surface. Right now the answers are trapped under a concrete plug that is surrounding your brain.
