I gotta say that I only felt that weird duality thing before I was with Scott- perhaps something else important to note was that I was never capable of having an orgasm via intercourse before I was with Scott. So my version of duality might just have been my discomfort with my partner before I was with a partner I was truly comfortable with. I have heard of people who actually cry after sex and all kinds of weird things... good topic, orby
But, I don't think that I experience the "up/down" thing... it feels good, and it feels good to lay there afterwords and either fall asleep together or creep to the shower together... one of the nice things about having been together for a long time, I guess, is that the sex gets better, in my opinion.
