The nuture assumetion. Correct? Flawed? What?

[zadojla]

Originally Posted by KickAssClown

My Dad on the other hand is hyper-critical and certain I'll fail because I do not know what Life is like and what it has in store for me so I do not know what I need and want. Though Somehow he does. and he wonders why I resent him? I give respect to those who respect me. Anyway thats for another time.

Does your Dad explain his preferences? When I tell my daughter how something should be done, I usually explain what I think the consequences might be, and provide alternatives. I also sometimes use as examples things I screwed up in my life. As she has gotten older, I tell more "R-rated" versions of events. If the consequences aren't too severe, I don't argue, I let her do what she wants. There's no teacher like experience.
Now she's 16, and I cannot really control what she does. I just hope I've taught her to be analytical and foresightful, and not to make the same mistake twice. And if she screws up badly, I try very hard not to be judgemental, but to calmly discuss what went wrong, why it went wrong, and what a better course of action might have been.

[Fishteacher73]

The human psyche is a very complex thing, and as with most complex things is composed of many different parts. Each piece is part of the puzzle. If you change one you change the interactions with the many other parts. Perhaps the question should be which (if any) piece has a dominant role.

One can see this and accept it in other animals but many tend to shy away from its implications to humans. We accept the fact that various breeds of dogs are usually smarter, more agressive, friendlier, etc. than others. In this frame though we also see how the training of the animal has a big influence on its personality.

Nature and Nurture work in sync.

[KickAssClown]

It's kinda funny because I posted this and then ended up going to live with my Dad for about a month and a half. Disrupted my life like nobodies buissness. Anyway here I am again.

To respond, fashionably late, to Zadojla. My dad Explains to me the worse case senario, then explains to me how it is to avoid this eventuality by his process.