(Sociology) what do you say when your wife/girlfriend says "

[Buffy]

Originally Posted by InfiniteNow

It works for me.

If you're extremely lucky (and well-behaved!), I'll go down to Old Navy to buy you socks--with *your* credit card--but darn them? Not bloody likely!

People judge you not by the size of your feet, but by whether your socks match,
Buffy

[REASON]

Originally Posted by Qfwfq

This is where you totally fail to understand a woman.

Boy, Don Juan! That was a bit of a hit-and-run comment. Maybe you'd be willing to enlighten me.

First of all, I don't presume to totally understand anyone. There's only so much about a person I can know. I try to avoid generalizations as well. Not all women are the same. Maybe I'm a bit jaded because in my experience, my ex-wife never really seemed to hear my compliments of her because her self-critical filter translated what I said into what she believed about herself. I rarely felt appreciated for all the positive and uplifting things I said to her that were truly genuine. Obviously, she didn't understand me either. And as a result, I probably stopped giving them. Other women respond differently.

Originally Posted by Qfwfq

That's very logical REASON, but are you sure IN's advice is what'll will keep her darning your socks until the grave?

I didn't promote IN's comment. I only noted it as an example of how confounding this situation can be, and how avoidance can be used to deal with it.


I feel that my initial post has been a bit misunderstood. Look at the context of what I was saying: Read between the lines, be protective of her feelings, take the high road, be genuine and honest (not FOS), and have honorable intentions. Where is the lack of wisdom in those concepts?

[Michaelangelica]

Originally Posted by Buffy

Well Michael, see what I mean? Lots of them need help. Unfortunately, some are beyond help!

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLIOLO
Buffy I nearly wet myself
Yes I see what you mean!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!

[Qfwfq]

Originally Posted by InfiniteNow

It works for me.

I'd like to see to what extent!!! Where I do agree with you is that there's a long, long, long series of "less wrong" answers.

A more serious one, especially if her bum clearly wouldn't make her a good belly dancer: "Your bum is absolutely fine honey. Most of all, you'd be just as great with any bum in the world!"

Originally Posted by REASON

Maybe you'd be willing to enlighten me.

Lesson not included in the price.

Originally Posted by REASON

First of all, I don't presume to totally understand anyone.

Note that I did not say "fail to totally understand" I said "totally fail to understand". And maybe it wasn't that your ex-wife didn't understand your compliments, maybe she understood them all too well...

Originally Posted by REASON

I only noted it as an example of how confounding this situation can be, and how avoidance can be used to deal with it.

As long as you are unaware of what makes a woman a woman, apart from having a womb and a few other anatomical parts.

Originally Posted by REASON

I feel that my initial post has been a bit misunderstood. Look at the context of what I was saying: Read between the lines, be protective of her feelings, take the high road, be genuine and honest (not FOS), and have honorable intentions. Where is the lack of wisdom in those concepts?

No lack of wisdom in them, only incompleteness.

[Michaelangelica]

Lets you and him fight
I'll just watch
What fun

[freeztar]

(Freeztar grabs the popcorn and pops a squat beside Michaelangelica)

[orbsycli]

(Orbsycli swiftly snags three puffy pieces of popcorn and replaces them to his mouth where two peanut M&M's are already waiting to be mashed together during the prelude)

[InfiniteNow]

Originally Posted by Michaelangelica

Well, any suggestions on what is the perfect reply when your wife/girlfriend says:-
"Does my bum look too big in this?"

You could always just say, "I love you."

[orbsycli]

or "I love your butt"

[Michaelangelica]

Originally Posted by freeztar

(Freeztar grabs the popcorn and pops a squat beside Michaelangelica)

LOLlololol
Yep stir the pot sit and watch
You didn't realise that this was the Greatest question of All Time?

Equivalent to the answer (to what question?) E=MC2 (And who the hell asked it anyway?)
Pity there aren't a few more Buffys on the Forum