I had this same discussion with some friends today. What it boils down to for us was this...
It sounds great to say "Her wish was not to live like this, so let her die". I'm all for that. I think that her husband has the right to determine what happens to her, legally. And I hope that, in this case, her tube is not re-inserted, as she has already spent 15 years too long here.
However, as a mother, I can't say for sure that I wouldn't do exactly what her parents are doing. I mean, if it weren't just some poor woman on the news, if it were my Em or Mags, or
any of my older children, I'm not sure that I wouldn't do every single thing I can think of to keep them alive as well. That's a maternal thing, I guess. A mother should never be forced to bury her child. It just hurts me to even think of being in that position.
I'd love to be able to say that I would give up their lives with grace and dignity, and celebrate their lives with gusto, and honor their memory, but realistically, I think I might do the same thing as those parents are doing. I can't even imagine what they are going through. And before I condemn them as horrid people that aren't doing what she wanted, I have to stop and think about what I would do. I would fight, with everything that's inside of me, for a chance, any chance, to keep my child alive.
Of course, this just applies to my children for me. If it were my husband, I know the plug (or feeding tube, in this case) would have been pulled long ago. We have had that discussion many times, and we both know how the other feels, though we don't agree 100% with each other. Also, I would have no problem pulling the plug on a parent, if that was their wish. But it's a whole different story when you talk about my children.
I know that's not the popular answer today, but that's how I feel. Hope you will be kind in your responses, and know that I just spent an incredible time snuggling with my 'baby', and can't fathom any situation where I would agree to ending her life if I thought there waseven the most remote chance that she may one day be ok. That's my mommy voice, and that's all I can give on this one...
